“The biggest lie we are told is to be with someone who makes you happy.” The truth is that happiness is what you create yourself. Be with someone to add to it. ~ Unknown
That’s what we all are aiming for, right?
Happiness, that is.
I thought happiness was about my outside world. I would have been happy if things went well (in my career, social life, relationships, etc.). If things went wrong, I often felt frustrated, angry, or defeated because it wasn’t anywhere else.
Later, I realized that long-term well-being was not about external events. It starts from the inside, and most importantly, it is a skill that is learned and developed.
To live the best life, you need to realize that happiness does not happen To You — it happens Because your.That doesn’t mean you’ll feel happy if you do all the right things Always.. No one always feels happy. That means your choices affect your feelings, and if you make healthy choices you will probably feel better than not.
To help you lead a happier life, I have put together 14 habits you can adopt now. Read them, ponder them, and move them with you. Use this list to start developing habits that will help you develop happiness, regardless of your current situation.
1. Look for a silver lining.
All clouds are said to have a silver lining. It can be difficult to find, but in my experience always There.
When one of my friends died a few years ago, I had a hard time finding a silver lining. Life looked unfair and brutal.
A few months later, I decided to turn all that frustration, anger, and sadness into life-changing. So I quit my job and went on a trip for a year. What happened to her realized that my life might be short, and I wanted to get the most out of mine. That was the silver lining for me.
2. Water your grass.
It’s very easy to compare ourselves these days. Simply turning on your TV, opening social media, or having a conversation can fall into a comparison trap. It’s not the way we build a happy life. We do that by watering our grass, rather than looking at our neighbors.
So acknowledge what others have and use it as an inspiration to get to where you want to go. Keep an eye on your lane and create, create and grow what you want more.
3. Move the phone away from the bedroom.
For many, the last thing they see before they fall asleep is the phone. It’s probably also the first thing they see when they wake up. (Confession: I’m guilty of this.)
By checking your smartphone first thing in the morning, you can decide your feelings with other people, apps, and email notifications. Instead of deciding what to focus on, start the day responsively.
Get yourself an alarm that isn’t your phone (or at least make you feel like an airplane). Next, create a short bedtime and morning routine that will make you feel better. I like to spend a few minutes on visualization, meditation, or gratitude to straighten my attention.
4. Set a comfortable reminder for your phone.
Oh, this is what you have to do now! Go to your phone calendar and set yourself a reminder once or twice a day. You will receive a notification every morning at 9am.I’m enoughRemember, no matter how hard I am, no matter what others think or say, I’m good enough.
At 1:00 pm, another confirmation will pop up.I deserve the best, and I always get it.This always makes my heart smile, as this enhances my value and forces me to think about whether my current situation could actually be in my best interests.
Set at least one pleasing reminder each day to treat yourself well in the future. Helps you change courses during the day if needed.
5. Take a walk in nature.
Most recently, I have noticed the power to connect with nature. This is where you reconnect and ground yourself.
Interesting fact: Nature is said to have a natural frequency pulsation (so-called Schumann resonance) with an average of 7.83 hertz.
This frequency (7.83 Hz) is probably also the average alpha frequency of the brain. The alpha state is where we feel relaxed and calm. It’s pretty epic, isn’t it? So make it a daily habit to walk in nature and adjust yourself to a happier and more relaxed version.
6. 100% responsibility.
This has always been a game changer for me. I often avoid liability at first (prone to criticism, criticism, and excuses, right?), But I can’t change the situation without first taking 100% responsibility.
Look at any area of your life that you are not completely satisfied with (your finances, health, career, love, social life, etc.). Then decide to take full responsibility for changing it. It may be true that someone else blames the situation, but the only way you can change things is to take responsibility for being within your control.
7. Stop complaining.
Oh, it’s very easy to complain. See, criticize, and blame what’s not working and what others are doing wrong. But that doesn’t solve the problem.
If you don’t like it, change it. If you can’t change it, your only option is to change your attitude about it. The next time you complain, ask yourself what you can thank in this situation. For example, if the bus driver is rude in the middle of work, you can choose to thank him for focusing on the fact that he can get on the bus and work.
8. Communicate confidence through your body.
Our bodies reflect our feelings. If you are nervous and anxious, you can be confident that your body reflects it. Your eyes may flicker, you may speak quietly, or you may be anxious.
The good thing is that this mirroring is done the other way around. So use your body to start communicating with your mind. Stand tall and straight, look into the eyes of others, and raise your voice. Use your body to tell your heart that you are safe, grateful, and comfortable where you are.
9. Spend time on important things.
If we want to live a happy life, we need to fill it with happy moments. This means spending time with important things and with important people.
What do you like to do What brings you joy and happiness? Who feels great to be around? Try to keep track of time every day for something that brings you joy.
10. Reduce the time you spend on social media.
Oh, social media! Just open the phone and you can step into the lives of thousands of people.
Social media is good in many ways. Inspire and help connect with people around the world and share special moments. However, it can also lead to a feeling of lack, insufficiency, and exclusion.
Be aware of your mood before joining social media. Please ask yourself. Am I in a place where I can use it for my own benefit? Or am I in a place where it can cause me negatively? In short, make sure you control your social media experience, not the other way around.
11. Give yourself space during the day.
It’s very easy to get involved in a busy life. Focus on efficiency, productivity, and accomplishment. But not creating space for yourself during the day not only creates stress and urgency, but also suppresses your creativity, intuition, and ability to reflect.
Therefore, if possible, be wise about how to set up your day. Give more time than necessary to complete the task. Try to take an hour and a half instead of an hour. For me, not rushing the task improved clarity, satisfaction, and (surprisingly) productivity.
12. Become a master by changing your perspective.
This is my line of trust, every day! Whenever I feel sick about a situation, I know that another, more informative perspective is available. For example, if you’re having a hard time falling asleep, you can focus on losing sleep (oh, horror!) Or you can handle the nights with less sleep and focus on the fact that it’s not a big deal. (And yeah, that’s usually when I fall asleep).
In short, look at difficult situations and try to find a more pleasing perspective. For example, did you collide with someone? That way, next time we may be able to better understand each other. Do whatever you can to learn the difficult situations, the benefits, and the positive aspects.
13. Give a gift that allows someone to help you.
When was the last time you asked someone for help? We tend to believe that we must always be strong and independent. But the truth is that we are not tied for independence, but for collaboration.
In general, people like to help others. So why not give someone a gift that allows you to help you? Seek their opinions, advice, or help move forward. Not only does this add value to you and you, but you will also get closer by helping each other.
14. Clarify the contrast.
In life, we experience contrasts and difficult situations on a daily basis. Here’s the good news: Negative experiences are clues to what you want. A strict and strict work schedule may indicate that you need more flexibility. Exercise that feels boring or overwhelming may tell you that it’s time to scout a new and fun training routine.
Contrast shows what we don’t like. Your job is to admit that you don’t like it and then turn your head in the opposite direction. Ask yourself: what do you want instead? How can I achieve that?
Small daily steps towards a happy life
When it comes to making changes, it can be overwhelming. So prepare yourself for success by taking action at one of the points I mentioned above. Choose something exciting and master it before moving on to the next point.
Don’t let your happiness fall into the hands of chance or external situations. Instead, take responsibility and grow happiness from the inside out.
Taking small steps and developing a habit of happiness can help make this world a better place.