“I now find that owning our story and loving ourselves through the process is the bravest thing we have ever done.” ~ Brené Brown
I just pushed all my property into a jumbo-sized moving van and moved it to a small little apartment. I landed a new job in a new city, and everything looked like a pink sharp … at least on the surface.
2015 was a fresh spring night. The entire The day I’m trying to put all my clutter in my new home. Imagine this. My 350 sq ft attic lacked sloping ceilings, the world’s smallest kitchen, and basically no storage. As you can imagine, this has never been so easy.
I became more and more frustrated when I tried playing Tetris with all the kitchen gadgets and trying to fit it in the cupboard under the sink. My chest began to burn, a sudden panic attack occurred, I fell to the floor, and I was out of breath during sobbing.
It completely surprised me.I mean, I was surrounded by what I wanted to do On purpose Choosed: I saved for them, chased them, and spent hours shopping for them. Why didn’t I relax in the new space?
After all, the real problem was that I couldn’t relax in myself.
I did the process of tidying up Absent Please come easily. I was fascinated by seemingly mundane things like mugs I had never used, dresses I didn’t fit, and instruments I hadn’t learned, and I had to dig deeper into my own anxieties to let go. ..
But in doing so, I finally found self-acceptance and discovered what was really important to me.
Examining our belongings is more than just asking, “Do I need it?” Or “Does it make me happy?” It requires being honest and defenseless to ourselves — it is between you and me, Absent What was comfortable in a cluttered life.
To keep things tidy, we need to overcome some of our deepest fears. But when done right, it also gives us the power to foster fundamental narcissism.
If you choose to let go of the mess, there are three ways you can help find more self-acceptance.
1. You reconcile with your true self
There are some things we don’t keep for whom is, But for whom we are Wish We were.
I bought a trumpet when I was in school. I love jazz and had the vision of blowing high C like Louis Armstrong, but in reality I didn’t spend a lot of time practicing. In fact, I learned very little how to make more noise than a flatulence with it.
The purchases we make for the “fantasy self” are generally ambitious and reflect our own goals and dreams. To you, it might look like this …
- Luxury shoes that I bought for a special occasion … but when those events take place, I can get shoes that are more comfortable than usual.
- Lots of threads that I swear to use when learning knitting someday, even if it looks like I can’t make time for a cunning hobby
- A collection of classic novels that I want to be someone who can talk about Dickens and Tolstoy at a party, but I can’t get into it.
If there is a break between your fantasy self and your habits, these items are guaranteed to be almost messy. To make matters worse, they become cluttered that makes you feel like junk because you failed to do otherwise.
If you feel guilty about not using a yoga mat or pasta maker, consider it a formal permit to let go. That doesn’t mean you’ll never reach those goals, it means you’re not in a place to achieve them … yet. And hey, if you decide that they aren’t the right goals for you at all, that’s 100% okay too!
Cleaning up your fantastic self can free you to be more peaceful with your true, most real self — in my opinion How to It’s cooler than any pasta maker, isn’t it?
2. You learn to trust your resilience
Have you ever been nervous about getting rid of something because you “may need it someday” in the future? Then you, my friend, may be messed up just in case.
When our home is filled with what we keep “just in case”, it tends to be the result of deep-seated fear of change. It’s our way of trying to prepare for every scenario that life can throw at us, and it’s a way of trying to have some control over every aspect of our life.
But here is: It’s not how life works.
As long as we strive, we can never be fully prepared for the infinite number of situations that may occur in our lives. Therefore, hanging on that second stapler, in case the first stapler breaks, is an attempt to control future situations that may or may not occur. And by multiplying this spirit with hundreds or even thousands of items, it’s easy to see how fears of the future affect our homes.
By organizing these items, you can relieve the need for control and rely on your unique resilience to overcome obstacles.So if you remove that second stapler, a few years later the first stapler will you do Break, you can ask yourself:
- Is there something that can be used like a paper clip instead?
- Does this document need to be stapled in the first place?
- Who in my life has a stapler I can borrow?
By organizing these “just in case” items, you can sharpen your creative thinking and strengthen your ties with your friends, family, and neighbors’ communities.
3. You will find more happiness in this moment
I haven’t met anyone who wasn’t sentimental about at least one of the things they own. And I got it completely! It feels good to remind us of the memories and people we loved.
If you are a sentimental sap like me, you probably have the urge to keep anything I have a memory related to it. This problem arises when our home is filled with the clutter of the past and sufficiently interferes with our present life. And let’s become a reality. Living carefully in the present is probably the key to a happy life, isn’t it?
Well, of course, I’m not saying that you need to throw away everything that reminds you of the people of your life and past events. But if you want to reduce sentimental confusion, keep the following in mind:
- There can be subtle boundaries between your favorite memories and your painful memories. Allow yourself to let go of anything that brings negative emotions and silly experiences from the past.
- Removing an item does not mean that you are insensitive, or that it does not love the person who reminds you.
- You don’t have to keep the entire set of items you need to remember. You can choose one or two favorites to serve the same purpose.
- If you want to let go of a sentimental item but are worried about losing your memory, you can always take a picture. After all, your memories live in you … not yours.
It’s natural to feel attached to the past, but you don’t have to sacrifice your present life. If your home is full of sentimental items, letting go of some of them may be the key to finding more happiness in your space.
As we get organized, we inevitably face attachment to the past, fantasy itself, and fear of the future. By addressing the emotions behind each, we can begin to find a little more peace at this moment, and ultimately in ourselves.