“You are the place where your thoughts brought you today. You will be tomorrow your thoughts will take you.” ~ James Allen
When I was 18, I experienced a very stressful period, which led to the development of a panic attack. I remember one night when I was suddenly overwhelmed by fear in bed. I have never experienced such a horror. Sure, I was scared of a lot, but this new sensation was unique.
The most accurate way I can explain it is a kind of animal-like horror. It seemed to come from the deepest and darkest depression of my subconscious, caused by the primitive beast mechanism.
The feelings were so deep and everything was wrapped up, as if nothing else existed. When I scribbled, this horror ran through my body, sweating and nervous.
The most unfamiliar and therefore horrifying aspect of horror was that it had no purpose: it wasn’t clear what I was really afraid of. From the beginning, it was just a fear and had nothing to do with the concrete.
That night marked the beginning of my panic attack period. Over time, depression, anxiety, sleep disorders, and general health problems have increased these.
At the age of 24, I started fighting back. With the help of meditation, I managed to get over depression and panic, and now they no longer afflict me.
In the midst of my hardships, I realized that I was disturbing myself with the mistakes I made, and I made full-scale progress only after overcoming them.
I often talk to people who have experienced or are experiencing similar problems, but I find that many face these mistakes. So what are they?
When you feel in a bad mood, depression, or panic, our first wish is to get rid of it as soon as possible and turn a “bad” mood into a “good” mood. This is natural. That is how we make it. But our attempts often make everything worse.
Resistance causes us to constantly think about our condition, focus all our attention on it, feel sick because it does not disappear, and force us to wait tensely for relief.
The simple truth is that you can’t control everything. Attempting to “control” one’s condition often leads to extra stress and unwanted bad emotions. Sometimes it’s best to let go and stop resistance.
Things will be much easier if we relax, cause depression and panic without trying to control anything, and accept that they are only temporary emotions that will eventually pass.
2. I feel sick. I feel sick.
I start thinking, “I’m going to die or go crazy,” “I don’t end up with this,” and “I hate not being able to enjoy life like others.” I feel very miserable. “
Our minds begin to add new fears and negative emotions to the depression we already have. And, as I have seen myself, these fears and emotions form a major part of our condition.
It’s really your mind, not the depression or panic itself, but making each episode very intolerable.
If you don’t believe me, try this experiment. The next time you’re overwhelmed by an attack, don’t get caught up in it or evaluate it, just observe it. Just look at it in pure form, without thinking. Be aware of which part of your body you feel it and how it goes back and forth.
In this way, you remove your mind from your pain formula. You will notice how weak the attack becomes when it is no longer supported by the thinking process. Make a note of the results if necessary and give it a try. Is it true to say that it’s not as scary and scary as it first seemed?
It’s much easier to shake off when you stop feeding your depression with fear and thought.
“When I wasn’t depressed, everything was very good! What a wonderful time, and how terrible it is now. Why can’t I go back ?!” However, such an idea only causes harm.
If you want to overcome depression and panic, you have to stop comparing. Forget that there is a past and a future. What happened happened. Don’t stick to it, live here now.
Start with what you have and don’t think about how it used to be. Learning how to live in the present moment will make your depression and panic much more tolerable.
4. Ask nonsensical questions.
Many people spend hours asking themselves all sorts of questions, “when will this end?” “Why me?” And “What did I do to deserve this?”
To take advantage of the famous Buddhist parable, these questions are as helpful as trying to understand the source of the arrow that blinded you: it’s not that important. All you need to know is how to pull out the arrow.
The “Why am I?” Question ilk only aggravates your condition and forces you to complain and get angry with what has already happened. Focus on what helps you get over your depression, and don’t worry about questions that don’t serve this purpose.
5. Believe in your fear.
I’m afraid of going out, meeting people, and going underground, so I suspect something bad will happen. There is nothing surprising about this, as nature has created fear to warn us of danger. We are designed to instinctively believe in this fear and respond to it.
But because of the real threat, our fears rarely occur. For example, the fear of losing psyche or choking during a panic attack is simply wrong. Stop believing in this fear. Whatever you are afraid of, it doesn’t happen at these times.
Fear is nothing but emotions and chemical reactions in your head. Even if you overcome your fear when you get down to the basement, it doesn’t mean that something terrifying is waiting for you. It’s like a malfunctioning fire alarm. Just because a fire broke out does not mean that it actually broke out.
So stop listening every time the “internal alarm” sounds. Get out, meet your friends, board the plane and keep the alarm sounding. Also, don’t try to “switch off” as it doesn’t always work. Please ignore. In other words, stop taking your fears as a reality.
6. Find out the reason for your depression in the outside world.
This is another mistake I made myself. I thought my fatigue was only related to my life and the way I work. I thought I would be happy if I could change that.
But after meditating, I realized that everything I needed to be happy was in me. Similarly, what was afflicting me!
I was so sensitive, anxious, weak, involved in bad habits, disciplined and irresponsible, so even if I succeeded in changing the external situation of my life, the features that caused depression are still there. There is.
To get rid of my depression, I had to get rid of the internal reason that caused it.
So don’t tell yourself, “If you get a new job, everything goes well,” or “If you get rid of all the scary things, you’re not afraid anymore.” .. Your depression and fear are in you, so wherever you are, they are also projected into the outside world.
Of course, this does not mean that you should not strive to improve your life. But first of all, you need to direct your efforts inward.
Conclusion: Act on what feels like common sense
Now, if you look at these mistakes and remember what you made yourself, you’ll see one thing that connects them.
The reason we make them is that when depression or panic strikes us, our instincts and bowel emotions begin to think and act in a way that tells us. “Fear, run away, resist, danger is waiting for you everywhere, you are trapped,” they whisper.
Synchronizing with this during a depressive attack exacerbates our situation. This is because our mind, emotions and instincts are strongly conditioned by depression. Therefore, listening to them is like listening to a malicious, invisible devil’s voice intended to lead you to ruin.
To free yourself from depression, you have to abandon all common sense concepts. Abandon your reason and you have to act against them.
Don’t resist your depression, accept your fears and allow them to simply pass by. Don’t get caught up in them or believe in them. Do not compare the current situation with the previous situation. Everything that feels illogical when you are in a state of fear or severe depression.
What I advise may seem to be the exact opposite of what your gut recommends to you. However, depression is a very widespread complaint because people continue to credible and obey these emotions. You need to act somewhat paradoxically to get rid of it.
My own experience convinced me of this. The understanding I have reached allows me to overcome my difficult situations and continues to help me address the challenges I encounter on my journey.