According to Wikipedia: “Self-esteem is a subjective assessment of an individual’s own values. Self-esteem includes not only beliefs about oneself, but also emotional states such as victory, despair, pride, and shame.”
As human beings, I think we have experienced a struggle for self-esteem. Whether we do something or not, they can appear in our daily lives. You may experience those feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy in one or more areas of your life. that’s OK. I have been there many times. Those feelings took root early in my childhood.
I’m here to tell you this: I understand that what you’re experiencing isn’t easy, and believe me, you’re not alone on this road. But the truth I want to share with you today is if you appear in your life every day in the face of your hardships, difficulties, and failures. Spend time and effort to get to know yourself. Bringing awareness to yourself and being honest with your limits, you will take important and coveted steps towards progress, personality development, and self-growth. By the end of it, I promise you will have a better version of yourself than when you first started.
How do you find self-acceptance and awaken your inner strength? Starting with the following, there are some steps you need to take to assist in your discovery.
1Definition of self-esteem
Ask yourself: How do you define self-esteem? How important are you to yourself? How valuable and competent are you?
2How self-esteem develops
Where do those opinions about ourselves come from? They are formed by a variety of factors, including our achievements, relationships, and connections to greater goals. But most of these opinions we form about ourselves develop during our formation.
3Challenge our basic beliefs
The biggest factor that lowers our self-esteem is our thinking. It is not the external situation that creates our self-esteem. When it comes to that, that’s what we tell ourselves. The way we talk to ourselves is directly related to what we believe in ourselves.
When our thoughts are critical, self-defeating, and negative, they have the power to significantly reduce our self-esteem. Without disagreeing with our ideas, we have become accustomed to listening to them. These ideas may not be accurate, and from habits we repeat them. We have to challenge our ideas, reconstruct them, and question their validity.
One of the key elements of healthy self-esteem is the practice of self-acceptance. Self-acceptance helps us feel better about ourselves and be independent of flaws, mistakes and failures. It helps us free our judgment and accept all aspects of who we are.
Self-acceptance is unconditional. We do not rely on our achievements to build self-esteem. We begin to reaffirm our qualities and qualities and accept our weaknesses and strengths non-judgmentally. It is liberating to experience a kind of happiness that does not depend on goal-oriented thinking.
In a nutshell, self-sympathy is kindness and love for yourself. We do not judge or criticize ourselves, but do it when we experience difficult times or recognize our own qualities that we dislike. We provide patience and kindness to ourselves, rather than blaming ourselves for all our mistakes. It practices forgiveness, knowing that it doesn’t have to be perfect to have high self-esteem.
There are three components to self-sympathy.
- Spread kindness to ourselves, just as we treat others.
- Rather than focusing on how we differ from others, a common humanity. Self-compassion helps us understand our similarities. We recognize that inadequacies, perfections and challenges are part of our shared human experience and do not happen solely to us. It reduces our self-judgment and connects us with others.
- Mindfulness provides us with a balanced perspective, allows us to observe our experience openly and clearly, and helps us face and embrace life without judgment. I will.
Combined, these three aspects of self-sympathy provide shelter for our overly critical minds and enhance our own overall acceptance.
To increase our self-esteem, society has taught us that we compare ourselves to others and prove that we are better. I gained competitiveness. That falsely elevated self-esteem depends on our recent successes or failures.
Therefore, our self-esteem depends on our situation. Self-sympathy is unconditional, and when we get involved in a game of comparison, not only do we succeed in being better than others, but our perspective is distorted. It is impossible to see the big picture.
The underlying struggle, burnout, and depression are not always present. We observe people gaining praise and success without being familiar with their hardships. The more competitive and successful people are around us, the lower our self-esteem. We reject our self-esteem and begin to devalue. Therefore, we need to stop comparing and practice self-sympathy.
7Let go of perfectionism
When young, most of us seek to be perfect in every aspect of our lives. When we strive to achieve our perfect self, much of our attention is devoted to focusing on our flaws. Often, we get angry at not being able to live up to our expectations and at the same time put a lot of pressure on our achievements.
When it comes to making mistakes, we can’t let go of it, and our relentless internal critics do not give us the ability to experience satisfaction and happiness. Whenever we reach our goals, our best seems to never be enough for ourselves.
This always elusive quest for perfection undermines our self-esteem because we cannot accept who we are. Many of us have the idea that striving for perfection and criticizing ourselves will ultimately lead to greater success.
In conclusion, defeating ourselves does not lead us anywhere in life positively or more. It prevents us from taking risks. If happiness is what we want and it is our desire to develop self-esteem, we must let go of our tendency to be perfectionists. It must be understood that what we achieve in life is not the same as our self-esteem, and the process of doing things is as important as the goals we set.
Increasing self-esteem comes with gratitude in accepting and thanking everything we can do, as well as respecting everything we can’t. Not only is it acceptable for us to do our best, but we simply admit that we are aware that we are good enough.
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Author: Amal Candido
Amal is a Certified Coach Practitioner, Management Professional, Organizational Management, and Human Resources Management. In addition to her portfolio of past jobs in the retail, travel, hospitality and financial industries, she is currently working in the legal department. In his spare time, he enjoys writing, blogging, yoga and meditation. Amal is the author of “Authentic Leader” and “Executive Assistant Guide to Survival” for leaders and people managers.