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Are you suffering from normal emotions?Not necessarily a mental disorder

“Don’t believe everything you think.” ~ Unknown

Society is becoming more accepting of mental illness. That’s great, but there are drawbacks that we need to discuss. Not all are mental illnesses. We need to stop making everything we feel morbid.

What I mean by pathologicalizing everything is jumping to diagnosing yourself after all the harsh emotions you have. Self-awareness is great, but I think we’ve gone a little too far. It causes more depression and anxiety.

Yes, we said we were over-recognizing ourselves. I support it, but I’ll explain why it’s behind my belief. We should feel different emotions. It is normal to experience either sadness, anger, hypersensitivity, anxiety, sadness, or occasional emotions.

As society is more embracing the issue of mental health, we now want to classify unpleasant feelings as mental illness. We diagnose ourselves with any psychosis we believe we have with the first signs of emotional pain.

It feels like we’re so messed up. We don’t need anything extra to make us feel messed up! Most of us feel this as it is often enough.

Before I list all the reasons I’m wrong, or how my views can hurt, let me give you some examples. If you read and agree to them, this may help you and your emotions to be more “normal” than you think.

Recently, I was talking to someone who was buying a house for the first time. He told me that he had a lot of anxiety related to all the processes he needed to accomplish.

I saw stress on his body and face.

He has a history of generalized anxiety disorder, so if he feels a little anxious, he begins to fear that his disorder may completely relapse.

It’s a logical and legitimate fear. Anyone who has experienced clinical anxiety knows how scary it is to think about its recurrence.

But he missed something incredibly important. Buying a home, especially the first one, always involves some “uneasy type” feelings.

We need to learn how to normalize the emotions that most people will have in the same situation. Panicing the first signs of difficult emotions can turn those emotions into something much larger than they really are.

Only a few weeks ago, I slept for 12 hours all night. I woke up with no energy or motivation. I still didn’t want to get out of bed after 12 hours of sleep.

It’s incredibly unusual for me. Usually I get up around 4am and write or do something for other work. This gives me time to work while my family is asleep.

That morning, when my husband woke up, I woke up a few hours later than usual. I told him I was so tired that I didn’t feel like doing anything. It’s not characteristic to me.

I felt “somehow” and just wanted to stay in bed all day without doing anything. So, 30 minutes after waking up, that’s exactly what I did.

Nothing sounded good to me, so my husband had to convince me to eat. I don’t even want a regular glass of wine that night.

The next morning I managed to wake up again and couldn’t shake it. I was forced to make myself work and play with my baby.

He seemed to feel like me. It worried me because he was so intuitive. I thought maybe he was calming me down.

When I returned to bed after lunch, I began to worry that I might be depressed. From childhood to my twenties, I was terribly depressed. I did a lot of treatment and had no symptoms of depression for about 10 years. My negative self-talk started to panic a little.

“What’s wrong? Why can’t I get out of bed? Maybe you should do some yoga instead of being so lazy.”

I started telling myself that my depression was back. Thankfully, I was able to stop those thoughts pretty quickly.

For some reason, my mind and body needed to rest. I had to let myself do it. Just because you’re tired and haven’t done anything for a few days doesn’t mean you’re depressed again.

It was difficult for me to realize that I might have been actually ill and that I might have had medical reasons for being so tired and sick.

The next morning I went to the emergency room. Well, what do you know? I had an ear infection and fever in both ears, and the nurse practitioner said my throat looked terrible.

Immediately my heart calmed down. The major depressive disorder did not grow its ugly head again. I was physically ill. My body was fighting an infection.

Anyone who has ever had a mental illness will one day say, “Hello. Do you remember me? I’m back!” Whenever we get a hint of difficult feelings, we are anxious, depressed, Or jump to the conclusion that whatever we had is back.

This happened recently for my friend. She has a history of major depressive disorder that has plagued her for many years. She went to therapy and has been doing really well for the last few years.

She is an introvert who works in sales. Her company had a week-long meeting with all managers and salespeople. If you know someone who has been in business or attended a company-wide meeting for a few days, you know how much outward energy it will take. ..

A few days after her meeting, she and I were on the phone. I asked her what was going on with her day. She told me she wasn’t motivated to do what she needed to do, she was just unmotivated.

She was scheduled to meet with a psychiatrist next week to see if she needed to adjust her medication. She was depressed and labeled her as scared.

After hanging up, I began to wonder if she didn’t think she was depressed.

I knew her very well and knew that being around a lot of people for a week was exhausting for her because she was an introvert. I sent her a text message about this and asked her if her “depression” had to be “on” for a week at the meeting and then she simply needed to rest. rice field.

Immediately, she agreed and replied that her depression probably wasn’t back to bother her again. She realized that she needed time to decompress because she was around a lot of people for a few days.

This is another example of how we are suffering from normal emotions. We want to quickly label what we feel as “wrong” or “unhealthy” and make it a catastrophe when it’s not really a catastrophe. Often this is the normal reaction to what we have experienced.

It’s great that society is becoming more aware, embraced and helped with mental health. However, not all are symptoms of mental illness. You should stop diagnosing mental illness based on social media memes and what you read or see.

You also need to realize that it is quite normal to feel sadness and anxiety. That does not mean that we are suffering from mental illness.

When we jump into the diagnosis of ourselves and others, we are actually doing harm because we do not allow ourselves to experience our emotions and normal things. Instead, we’re trying to find a pathological reason to feel a particular way, so we can eliminate it as soon as it pops up.

That is no energy. Health is about experiencing emotions that come to mind, learning how to navigate those emotions in a healthy way, and choosing not to be ashamed of having non-positive emotions.

So, the next time you experience a difficult time and want to label it as a mental illness or something that needs to be stopped and “fixed” right away, pause and ask a few questions.

Is this something that many people experience? If yes, give me some leeway and time to recover.

Do you feel normal to me depending on your situation? If so, you don’t have to label them as mental illness or something you should be seriously worried about.

Will this prevent me from completing tasks that need to be completed? If so, does it last for a week or two or more? Diagnosis of mental illness requires a change from “normal” function.

Did others notice that I’m having a hard time, and are they worried? If not, you are probably experiencing normal feelings about the experience you have experienced.

Use these questions as a guide and be a little more graceful if you have the right feelings or reactions to a difficult experience. Also, keep in mind that most of what you read telling you that you have a mental illness is probably not eligible to do so.

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