This is the second and last part of the Bullying Prevention Month blog post series. This time, we’ll focus on how you can tackle the problem if you find that someone needs your help. It’s very hard to see someone (especially a friend you care about) being attacked, but you can always take some action to help and show support.
Dr. Sameer Hinduja, co-director of the Cyberbullying Research Center and professor of criminology at Florida Atlantic University, explains: “Our research shows that young people want to do the right thing when they see others being harassed or attacked online. Their conscience is stabbed and they are somehow stabbed. I feel compelled to act. “Dr. Hinduja does not ignore abuse or tell herself that it is not your problem to deal with it, but at least * something *. I recommend you to do it. He adds: “Believe in the ability to make positive changes, as someone else wants when suffering from cyberbullying. Just do something or something to help and encourage the targeted person. . “
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- Help friends and others who are the target of online hatred.. Lucy Thomas, one of the founders of Project Rockit, Australia’s youth-led movement against (cyber) bullying, said that one of the worst parts of (cyber) bullying was complete humiliation in front of a large public audience. He says he feels. Super isolation experience. Here are her recommendations: “If you’re not confident about someone at the moment, or if you feel unsafe, you can send a private message or chat face-to-face to let them know. You handle them. I know I don’t agree with the way I’m being told. It looks small, but to be honest, it can change a person’s life. “
- Be careful not to escalate the problem If you plan to challenge that person directly. But it’s okay to say that you don’t like what they’re doing. Lucy explains that being the right kind of ally doesn’t mean choosing to fight someone who is struggling with your friends. An alternative you can try is to distract yourself from annoying comments or post positive content to show that you have a friend’s back. If the bully knows that his target has support, they are less likely to continue to harass them.
- Resist the urge to retaliate.. Project Rockit experts emphasize that it doesn’t make sense to repay hatred with hatred. “Retaliation only continues the cycle of (cyber) bullying. Besides, you need to remember that the person you hate from behind the screen isn’t really anonymous. You’re not!” There is no doubt that you do not want to provide the attacker with ammunition that could be used. Staying strong in dealing with others online as you would when you are offline makes it much easier for you to stay connected to yourself (even in the face of cyberbullying). ..
- Make your world a better place. Empowerment from the team at the Diana Awards, an organization that provides resources and support to people who are experiencing bullying: “If you’ve ever been bullied, what you’ve experienced wasn’t great. But hopefully solved it and, as a result, became stronger and more elastic. Now use that experience as a moment of learning or education to empower others in similar situations. Give, guide them, and stand up quietly or loudly the next time you see the same kind of behavior. “