Dear foot pain:
I’m sorry to meet you. Remind me where I made your acquaintance. Oh, that’s right. On my trip to Death Valley in February, I thought a long hike caused a bruise on the rock. Instead of healing, you got worse and jumped to your other leg.
Thank you for your reminders. Help. Because I was in the valley to mourn my dead lover, Tony, for her rituals, tears and personal funerals.Me Hate I am forced to walk this earth without him. So I now meet you about what you really are — the sadness, longing and anger that the soles of my feet continue to step on. Let me cry for a while. Also. More Sadness to Resolve — Seems Endless.
I repeat throughout my life and suffer from physical pain caused by stress, anger, or sadness rather than physical ones.
For the first time in my thirties, I was stabbed with back pain for a year through treatments ranging from drugs to physiotherapy. The more I try to fix it, the more it hurts. Three days after reading the book I desperately picked up, it magically disappeared. The work of Dr. John E. Sarno introduced me to the concept of mental and physical pain and then freed me. His suggestions helped me identify the grudge I was hiding from myself.
Since then, my pain in my legs, joints, and other parts of my body and mind have been struck in a similar way and then disappeared. In many cases, I suffered for months before I realized that recent pain could be more emotional than physical.
Settled in society’s disregard for the power of our subconscious, I continue to forget to take care of my body as a whole. Every time I have to give up “don’t let X hurt” and switch to “what kind of feeling does this pain have for me”. Only then can I find relief.
Of course, the same tactics don’t help everyone with chronic pain. However, even if the cause of the pain is known, there is no surgery or powerful medicine. For me, writing a letter to look up my pain worked better than any medicine, and it’s free. When I ask the right question for pain, it goes away — like when I realized that my feet were hurt by walking in the hot coal that was almost lost.
Of course, not all pain is caused by difficult emotions. Injuries, structural problems, and conditions ranging from autoimmune diseases to endometriosis can hurt too many people. However, researchers have repeatedly shown that psychological factors, such as anxiety about pain, exacerbate the degree of pain, regardless of the cause. These emotions can even reprogram our brains to feel the pain caused by neurological ruts rather than physical causes.
After all, pain cannot exist until our brain interprets the signals from the nerves. Changing or reducing its interpretation is the purpose of interventions such as meditation and deep breathing. Similarly, it helps to express emotions by writing, regardless of why our nerves are talking.
Journaling is often recommended as a mindfulness technique for managing trauma and chronic pain. Many studies have confirmed that it works. It’s almost creepy that writing (preferably on paper, by hand) can reveal the truth that’s stuck in our bodies and our subconscious.
Writing a letter to your pain, as I have, offers the benefits that regular journaling may miss. In particular, To Not pain About That:
1. Helps to distinguish oneself from pain, rather than equating it with pain or thereby defining oneself.
2. You can reduce the tendency to explain or complain about it and further strengthen the neurological rut.
3. It can increase our control and calmness and reduce anxiety and possibly pain.
To try this approach, ask the following pain questions and ask them to reply with a pen.
- What was happening in my life when you arrived?
- When, where, who and who bother me the most? why?
- If so, when will you leave me alone? What was the difference at that time?
- What difficult emotions and decisions are disturbing me?
- What is preventing me from secretly fearing or resenting?
- May skip if you’re gone Can you help me do (breaks, etc.)?
- What is the nature of our relationship? Where are we going from here and what does that mean for us two?
- How do we feel now when I write this to you? why?
Do not censor the thoughts that arise, especially when your pain provides an answer. Please write quickly. Read more about the insights later.
Writing multiple letters brings up a new line of questions. And the more I practice, the faster the revelation comes. My recent pain letter took only 5 lines:
Why are you stuck on the left side of my back? Is it because you tend to start sleeping on your right side? That’s what I do.
When Tony was here, that was the way I slept and snuggled up to him, and I don’t want to “turn my back” on our bed or his place in my life .. Hmmm.
This explanation seemed simple as I was rolling in all directions all night. Still, when I went to bed that night, I sat down on the left side instead and experimented. It hurt my heart, not my back. I was unaware that I equated that position with turning my back from my love.
Tears ooze out, but I woke up without any pain. The pain has not recurred. If necessary, recognize the placebo effect. It doesn’t matter why the pain stops. Any pain management is effective.
Talking to your pain may also help you by reducing anxiety about it. Make a note of it to see how it reacts. There is little to lose other than ink. Sadness still sometimes annoys my feet, but my letter worked better than what the podiatrist advised. So the rest of that particular letter thanked the pain and rejected it:
Thank you for heading up. good bye. Please don’t come back. I would rather pay attention to heartache that it clearly still needs. On my daily walk, I mourn the woods where no one cares even if I sob. satisfaction? You may be trying to help, but I don’t need you to have that feeling for me.
Sure, emotions can also hurt, but most of us prefer emotions to physical pain because it has a negative impact on our lives. So take out the pen and paper and see what appears. If you’re lucky, fresh insights may increase your ease.