Motivation

Do you react very emotionally?May get stuck in survival mode

“”Survival mode is considered to be a phase that helps you save your life. It doesn’t mean your way of life.~ Michel Rosenthal

Childhood is the most important time for many. However, no one is unharmed and never reaches adulthood. We are all experiencing emotional bruises and injuries at friends, family and school.

My parents raised three children and grew up in a family where they worked hard to improve their financial status. They didn’t do anything intentionally, but I was often misunderstood, lonely, inadequate, and generally unfit, and even overwhelmed.

Volcanic oppressed emotions erupted after years of joy, wrong master’s degree choices, and great work climbing the corporate ladder. result? It made me physically ill with allergies, constant body aches, and a rash that I couldn’t sleep, driving me to a complete collapse.

At that time, I noticed that my body was trying to talk to me. I’ve been giving warning signs since I was a kid.

I was often crying, so I was called sensitive. I was often ill and my parents called me “weak.” I screamed and shouted, or just shut down and retracted into my room. In any case, they told me not to react so much. It became a vicious cycle of feeling overwhelmed and then hating oneself by not acting in the usual way.

When I was an adult, I wanted to lie down on the floor sobbing, quit my job and pursue psychology. From there it wasn’t an easy ride, but by studying this subject, I was able to answer why I was like myself.

After all, I was never overreacted or sensitive. I was in survival mode and my body and mind recognized everything as a threat. My body tried to keep me safe from a distance by fighting, fleeing, or freezing me. My mind was generally very wary of the moods and reactions of others. So my body didn’t know how to relax, and it was exhausted for years!

Our bodies are designed to face threats and then return to relax mode. But if our mind handles, adjusts, or is unacceptable for huge emotions, it goes into “always alert” mode to protect us. But if we can’t ring the alarm bell, protection becomes our own enemy and we live in anxiety.

The cherry blossoms at the top are that we often live in this state for years and begin to feel normal and comfortable. Then we crave the drama and attract the friends and partners who trigger us, but it only goes into the tailspin where we continue to feel emotionally charged.

But there is a loophole. It takes effort and courage to rewire your mind and body to function optimally and lead a more fulfilling life, but it is possible.

Everyone travels uniquely and we all have to find the one that works best for us. But here are some things that worked for me. I would appreciate it if you could sympathize with my experience.

1. Remember that you can handle whatever happens.

When we’re in survival mode, we create useless stories in our heads and anticipate the worst possible outcomes as a means of keeping ourselves safe. The key to releasing the fear-based need to protect ourselves is to accept that we cannot control everything. No matter how worried we may be, we cannot guarantee that nothing will hurt us.

What we can do is to work on what is within our power and consciously choose ideas that empower us. Remember that if things don’t go as planned, it’s safe to deal with them.

2. Rewire your brain through awareness.

Ask yourself regularly if your thoughts are producing your emotions or if your emotions are producing your thoughts. You will find that our minds make statements that make us feel a particular way.

For example, if a friend doesn’t answer a text message or phone call, you make a story about what you said to offend your friend or what’s wrong, and elicit emotions accordingly. If you think they’re just busy, you’ll feel different. So practice to be aware of your story so that you don’t go into panic mode with thoughts that are unlikely to be true.

3. Scan your body.

Your body speaks in a subtle way. Always check in to find out how you really feel. Is there some tension, is your heart beating fast, or is your jaw tight? When you are interested in your physical sensations, you will begin to recognize when you are emotionally charged from reacting to perceived threats. This will allow you to actively calm your nervous system, perhaps through deep breathing, caressing your dog, or going out in nature.

4. Be considerate of yourself.

It’s not an easy journey, and you need to be considerate of yourself. You have done your best to survive, and now it’s time to be aware that you can prosper.

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