“Remember that being happy doesn’t mean having everything. It just means being grateful for everything you have.” ~ Unknown
I remember sitting on the New York City subway and tears dripping onto my face, armed with barium and lithium, and other antidepressants that my mind just prescribed.
I was desperate, in that cave I became known as depression. Dark, desperate, horrifying depression. The cold metal seats on the subway made me feel like I was exposed raw. It couldn’t work. I couldn’t stop crying. I was in a hurry that it would be like this forever.
It was an example of one time in my life. Yeah, I got over it. And there was another episode of this beast. I gradually got sick and tired.
I remember that day. I became depressed again and began to feel gratitude out of nowhere. I’m really grateful! And it was very pleasant! I knew that I could start a different way of thinking and feeling.
Then I finally vowed to find a way to consistently bring happiness to my life. Sure, it can be hard, but my goal was to live my life as positively as possible. I have discovered that happiness is an inner task and process. There is science to be happy. And I’m here to tell you, it can.
Maybe you’ve never been so depressed. I hope not to do so. But if you’re feeling down or blue, there’s help.
Let’s take a look at the science of happiness.
Sonia Lyubormirsky et al. Discovered that we can actually raise the level of happiness. According to their study, 50% of our well-being is genetic and fixed, and we are born with a setting of well-being. This may explain why your sister is always happy while you sometimes struggle to spend the day. Unfortunately, this setting cannot be changed.
The next thing to consider: 10% of our happiness is our gender, the age we grew up in, our profession, important events in our lives, whether we are married or single, and so on. It is due to.
For example, you might think that making more money or having a new car makes you happy, but to some extent it only makes you happy. After that, the effect of “pleasure adaptation” will be inherited. It is a tendency for all of us to get used to what we have, and our level of happiness returns to what it was before we got that “new”.
If you are worried about survival, it will be important to have enough money. But research shows that the rich are happier than our others. In fact, they are reported to claim to have more headaches and anxieties. Again, happiness is an inner task.
Good news now. 40% of our happiness is left for intentional activity. This is where we have choices. We can change and manage our state of mind. This 40% is where we can manage our happiness level. You may not be able to change the settings, but you can change the happiness. It’s up to us.
There are many things you can do as a deliberate habit. We can practice kind acts, learn forgiveness, connect with others, and take care of our bodies (through both physical activity and meditation)-and these are just a few examples.
One of the best places to get started is daily appreciation practice. Write down three things that you thank every day. Choose a different one every day.write down why They thank you. The why Is very important.
Studies conducted at companies like Google have shown that this practice increases positive levels. Make this a deliberate daily practice. It may seem awkward at first, but hey, science shows that it works. It is guaranteed to change your mindset.
Happiness has the whole science, which (I would like to say) consists of “happiness hygiene habits” every day. You do these things like brushing your teeth. They keep your level of happiness higher. You choose the one that suits you best and make it your daily practice.
For example, Harvard Health Publishing reports that physical activity, such as exercise, walking, dancing, and yoga practice, is almost always as effective as antidepressants. Long-lasting, low-intensity exercise stimulates the release of proteins called neurotrophic factors or growth factors, allowing nerve cells to grow and establish new connections. Improving brain function makes us feel better.
When I was depressed, I had insight and realized that if I wanted to have a better day, I had to do it myself. I needed to understand what could help me change my mindset from negative to positive.
Happiness is not what you seek, and once you get it, you get it forever. It is an ongoing process of daily maintenance using the tools revealed by Happy Science.
Some of these tools:
1. Setting realistic, achievable, and personally important goals has given me a purpose.
My goal is to be a project that inspires and excites me. I have set internal and external goals. These pursuits make me happy and keep me young. I no longer set goals for money, ego, or power. I value my goals and truly “own” them.They are not inherited by what society directs or what my parents, neighbors, or anyone else considers to be of value from the outside.
2. Enjoying positive moments has become a real source of joy.
When you find a sunrise with a shining moon, be in awe and enjoy it. Catch the beauty and taste the positive.
3. Connecting with people can make a big difference.
By reaching out to good friends (even when I don’t want to), I was able to stay more connected and therefore get more content.
4. Sharing what’s happening in my life with close friends helps to get rid of weight from my shoulders and I can share my secrets.
You are as sick as your secret. Sharing is compassionate. Listening to good friends is the same as healing.
5. Randomly practicing compassionate behavior (getting someone in line first or writing a “thank you” letter) showed me compassion.
These little acts make me think along the line of service. Serving is out of focus for me and others. Where can you change the lives of others?
6. Increasing my spiritual connection has become a source of hope and strength.
Through meditation, prayer, and contemplation, I have found a connection to the universal sources I use every day.
7. Catch negative self-talk was very helpful in staying positive.
Catch the following negative stories: catastrophic (“this is terrible”), all-or-nothing thinking (“it”) everytime “It will be like this”), negative predictions (“my finances will be ruined”), labeling (“I am very stupid”), etc. were major shifts.
It’s not always easy to capture these ideas, but I’m looking for them now. I immediately stop myself and switch my thoughts to a positive and more accurate statement. Our negative thoughts are not the truth of the situation. They are lies, the distortions that the ego tells us. It depends on how we perceive it.
8. Paying attention to the little things helps me maintain a healthy mental space.
Even the simple things like listening to my music or getting up and dancing are almost always uplifting.
9. Finally, living at the moment as much as possible, without bringing in the past or falling into a dire situation about the future, freed me from pain.
“Now” is the place where true peace exists. Recognizing the current moment is simple, but not always easy.
Therefore, all these actions and more can make up a 40% selection point. We can improve our state of well-being by practicing the hygiene habits of happiness. Science has proved that practicing these habits has helped develop low-level pessimists into low-level optimists.
Hey, anyone can do it if I can. And that means you!