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How mindfulness brought me empowered introversion (and how it can help you)

“Introversion lives in two worlds. We visit the world of people, but loneliness and introversion are always our home.“~Jen Grannemann, Introvert’s Secret Life: Inside Our Hidden World

At any point in my life, I didn’t think I was an introvert. I always thought I was a normal kid with life experience like everyone else. There was nothing strange to me.

It was until I started being called a nerd, too quiet, serious, shy. I like my space and I still like it. I’m doing things myself or with a very close friend. It’s always me to surf the internet at home, learn new things, and be crazy about the latest technology.

I didn’t like the idea of ​​being around a group of people, attending parties, and socializing for a long time. Because I felt the burden and lack of energy for such activities.

Walking outside is always anxious and conscious, and when someone approaches and starts talking, no matter how hard I try, I feel awkward.

That was my life. As I continued to grow, it became so annoying that it began to influence how I perceive myself.

I was very anxious. I was stressed by socializing, going out, making friends, and expressing myself in serious situations like job interviews.

At that time, I had a bad temper, so every time I got angry, I became an ugly and angry bear. After a moment of anger, regret slowly sneaked up and I chewed myself for all the sneaky things I said and did to others.

“This is not the kind of life I want to live in old age,” I thought. I was an introverted nerd, so I decided to do some in-depth research and look for a permanent solution to change the situation better.

During the research phase, I came across the practice of mindfulness. The idea of ​​training my mind to stay in the moment and being aware of my thoughts, feelings and feelings was interesting to me and I felt it would work for me.

So I was responsible for learning about mindfulness and how it can be started and used to improve myself.

A few years later, after immersing myself in practice and doing it every day, I saw great improvements in my life and the way things were done, and I couldn’t be proud of myself.

I have become more empowered and prepared to handle aspects of my life that I had previously had problems with, and I have seen good results with them.

Five Ways Mindfulness Empowered Me As an Introvert

Here are five ways to change your mindfulness and make my life better.

1. Mindfulness made the introverted skin feel comfortable.

Initially, I thought the only way my life could improve was to train myself to be extroverted.

I have created a strategy on how to be slow and vulnerable, that is, how to attend more social events, talk to as many people as possible, and tell everything about your life. did. Then they will feel that I am open with them and then open to me and life will be wonderful.

In retrospect, the strategy was designed to help me lie. I was supposed to tell you something other than myself, but I was glad I couldn’t carry out the plan because I found out immediately after thinking about it.

After practicing mindfulness for a while, I realized my nature of being an introvert and how I did things in my life. I realized that while introversion has many drawbacks, it also has many advantages.

And just as introversion is criticized for introversion, extroversion faces the problems that arise from extroversion.

Many people disliked it because it often looked introverted, boring, and quiet, but because he was extroverted, he was hurt by many fake friends.

At that time, I discovered that no one was better than the other. There were pros and cons to both introversion and extroversion.

With that awareness, I got used to being introverted and said, “I’m going to keep my true nature of being introverted. It may not be perfect, but at least I pretend to be someone who isn’t me. I won’t lie. “

2. Mindfulness made me more confident.

Self-acceptance is probably the best I’ve gained from mindfulness, as it helps me feel comfortable about who I am and, as a result, increases my self-confidence.

I no longer believed that being introverted was a bad thing, but instead focused more on the positive side of it. I also came to know that diplomats were envious of me, just as I was envious of them.

I thought it was cool to be extroverted, but I remembered an extroverted friend once telling me that I wanted to be like me. They thought my tranquility gave me a mysterious personality, and being comfortable alone for a long time also made me powerful and independent. Recalling this added to my overall self-confidence and self-acceptance.

I went from “Man, I wish I could be more sociable and talkative!” “Man, I love the quiet and comfortable way to be alone!”

I also realized that recognizing the anxious and stressful thoughts and feelings I had when I was in people was the thoughts and feelings that they were and were just that. Things that keep coming and going.

They were neither reality nor truth.

I was creating an exaggerated scenario in my head, so I felt anxiety and awkwardness around people. I was helpless just to notice it without doing anything, and social anxiety slowly disappeared from my life.

3. Mindfulness has given me spiritual clarity and concentration.

By learning to recognize my thoughts, feelings, and emotions at this point, I have less thoughts and more control over my emotions. Less thoughts, especially those that induce anxiety, have been transformed into more spiritual clarity and concentration.

Instead of having negative thoughts about how others feel about me and how awkward it is to talk to others, the experience of talking to others is more open. I recognized it and started going out without thinking too much. ..

With that slight change in approach, I usually look into the eyes when talking to people and without anyone noticing that I was once a “socially impaired” introvert. I was able to continue a stable conversation.

On top of that, the emotional controls I gained from my practice, reducing distracting thoughts, helped me improve my level of education and work productivity.

You will find that you have less thought to explore, your mind can stay focused for a long time, and your attention increases.

4. Mindfulness has heightened my self-awareness.

By always being attentive throughout the day, I was able to better understand myself. I have discovered certain areas of my life and areas that I need to work on.

For example, when I talk to people, I realize that I think before I talk. This helped me avoid the embarrassment of saying unthinking words that would make me look like a fool or hurt the person I’m talking to.

I also realized that communication was good, but not enough to take action. I took a lot of thoughtless actions, which bothered me.

By combining the small observations I made with a determined and disciplined effort that reflected a better approach, I was able to improve and become a better person.

5. Mindfulness has brought me peace and inner harmony.

Within a few years, I changed from a socially awkward, always anxious, self-loathing person to a self-loving, confident, mentally and emotionally stable person.

I didn’t have to pretend, think, or think about things from an extrovert perspective to be accepted. I accepted myself as it was and discovered how others love my introverted traits. This gave me a sense of satisfaction with myself.

In addition, I was free to think and act according to my nature, which allowed everything in my life to work in harmony.

How I made Mindfulness work in my life (and how you can)

After researching and reading articles, watching videos, listening to podcasts and mindfulness teachings, I decided to take action.

I started with mindfulness meditation because mindfulness meditation is the easiest and most rewarding first step towards mindfulness. It not only helps you learn how mindfulness feels and how to grow it, but also trains you to become mindfulness without much effort.

Using guided meditation for mindfulness meditation is even more rewarding. I did some guided meditations for a few months before I started meditation myself and got good results.

Guided mindfulness meditation guides you through your entire experience with the help of professionals who explain how to relax your mind and body so that you can have a fulfilling session.

It’s just the perfect place to start building mindfulness in your life.

I started meditation for a minute or two and increased that time to 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, and then 20 minutes.

After getting used to meditation, I incorporated mindfulness into my daily life and began practicing while eating, listening, speaking, showering, walking, and working.

These techniques really improved my level of mindfulness and helped me to be more aware of myself. The best approach is to start incorporating these techniques one by one into your life. Start with what you think is the easiest to work with and keep it for a few weeks. Then take another technique and do the same until it’s natural to do everything throughout the day.

The goal is to be more careful with your regular activities and, as a result, to increase your moments of attention throughout the day.

I’ve seen mindfulness turn my life around as an introvert, and if I can be empowered through it, I believe you can. increase. Work closely with mindfulness and see how it can liven up your life.

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