“Remember that you are your own best investment. Invest in yourself and your lifestyle. Quality of life is an important factor in finding joy and maintaining self-confidence. . “~Akiro Kubrost
Have you ever sacrificed your happiness to take care of others? If this sounds like you, you may be doing more harm than good.
Think about when you get on an airplane. What do they say to you first?
“If the pressure in the cabin drops, wear your own oxygen mask first and then assist your child and other passengers.”
They tell you this, because if you don’t take care of yourself first, you will faint and die! Not only in emergencies, but also in everyday life, you can only help others and save lives if you meet your needs. This is where self-care comes in.
I thought it was selfish to prioritize my needs over the needs of others.
To show love for others, I thought I had to constantly give myself and prioritize their needs over myself. As a result, I was always exhausted and tired. I let go of all of myself, and there was nothing left for me.
Not only did I have a very stressful job in the financial industry, but I also started a personal training business that required a total of 85 hours a week.
To insult my injuries, I pushed my body to the limit seven days a week at the gym and slept only four to six hours a night. I was trying to balance my boyfriend, social life, family and kittens as if this wasn’t enough.
At this stage of my life, it was common to spend a long day, then fall on the bed, get dressed, get up and repeat the cycle again. Eventually depression began to creep in and stopped doing anything for fun altogether. Everything is goal-oriented.
I forgot who I am. I forgot how to be happy. I didn’t think it was worth the time to recharge, get in touch with my inner beings, and evaluate what I really wanted in my life.
I devoted myself to making money and pleasing others, trying to buy love that I thought wasn’t right for me. It’s called a pleasing illness and it kills you if you forgive it.
I kept this pace for two years, had some vacations and a few days off, and had no choice but to brake.
My immune system suddenly shut down, followed by a barrage of illness and infection. My goal of being a microcosm of perfection and efficiency suddenly stopped. The pleasing illness has finally caught up with me.
First, I developed a potentially life-threatening case of pneumonia. Immediately after that, I had a staphylococcal infection, literally the size of a golf ball, on my neck! Then I became very lethargic and getting out of bed was a big challenge.
This lasted for months.
I have never felt so low in my life, and I knew I had to take this unfortunate sequence of events as an opportunity to grow and learn. Otherwise it’s all free!
This was a big kick in my pants, telling me to slow down the TIM and take some time on my own.
Finally I received the message, and I knew it was time to take a step back to reassess my lifestyle choices, motives, and habits.
How can you help others when you’re not taking care of yourself? I left myself at the end. And it doesn’t help anyone!
I knew it was time to stop sacrificing myself and start practicing serious self-care.
Stop Extreme Burnout and Fatigue Before It Stops You
If you neglect yourself for a long time, you will experience extreme burnout. This is when you push yourself hard and literally can’t continue anymore, just fall.
If you are worried about extreme burnout, you may see the following signs:
- You’re completely exhausted by the end of the day, so you fall on the couch and fall asleep unnoticed.
- By the end of the week you are so tired that you can hardly get out of bed in the morning.
- You sleep for a tremendous amount of time during the weekend just to feel normal again.
- No matter how much you sleep, you will be exhausted and wake up.
- Caffeine is needed to wake up and spend the day.
- You often work hard and forget to eat.
- You have an extreme thirst for junk food and eat an excessive amount of sugar for energy.
- You are plagued by Netflix and other distractions to avoid being alone in your thoughts.
If you feel you are at risk for burnout, or want to take better care of yourself, self-care is the answer you are looking for.
What exactly is self-care?
Initially, I had many misunderstandings about self-care. I thought I was happy all the time. Then I realized that it wasn’t really possible to always be happy, and that suffering was a necessary part of life for personal growth.
True self-care strengthens and deepens our connection with ourselves and enables us to understand how to meet our needs from a mental, emotional and physical perspective.
Self-care builds connections with those who are at the center of your being and keeps you fixed and undisturbed when the flow of life is disrupted.
It helps you keep small things from sweating and prevents burnout and fatigue. Ultimately, self-care practices allow you to understand yourself, find your passion and goals, and take you on the path to a fulfilling life.
Breaking down bad habits is not easy. Especially if you spend years prioritizing the needs of others over your own. Here are some tips on how you can start dealing with yourself!
Self-care ideas for mental health
- Relax and do nothing (mobile phones are not allowed!)
- To meditation
- Read educational books focusing on personal growth
- Listen to Education Podcasts (News Not Included as Education)
- Play with pets
- Embrace your loved one
- Do something that makes you smile
- Create artistic things or play musical instruments
- Listen to your favorite music
- Practice gratitude in the gratitude diary
Self-care ideas for emotional health
- Forgive someone you had a grudge against
- Do something that scares you of what you always wanted to do
- Focus on your needs and goals rather than comparing yourself to others
- Practice compassion for yourself
- Take a break from social media
- Feel your feelings, not run away or distract yourself
- Read a fictional book that lifts your spirit
- Stay away from technology and unplug
- Help someone and don’t expect anything in return
- Practice positive affirmations (eg, enough as you are at this moment)
- Make a note of some of the things you are grateful for about yourself
Self-care ideas for physical health
- Practice deep breathing
- Move to your favorite music
- Get enough sleep
- Lift the weight
- Play sports
- Go outside — shine sunlight on your skin
- Try yoga and other heartfelt movement exercises (good for your mental health)
- Eat healthy (fruits and vegetables, unrefined foods)
- Look in the mirror and love your body as it is now, without judgment
How daily self-care practices changed my life
Self-care saved me from extreme burnout. It wasn’t easy to find my time slowly all day long, so instead I get up early and devote an hour to myself.
I have created a daily self-care routine to start the day with a positive feeling. This positiveness has permeated and changed my life in other aspects of my life.
I was miserable to get up to work in the morning. I enjoy going to the gym, listening to podcasts, and meditating, so getting up is fun. I have found that I am generally happy and filled with gratitude for the blessings of life.
He also lost £ 12 in eight weeks, even after spending less time in the gym by reducing the triggers of daily stress and practicing a healthy diet. Previously, my lifestyle and excessive exercise put a lot of stress on my body. This stress caused a hormonal response in the body that increased fat rather than actually losing it.
The secret of my big weight loss: stress relief, moderate exercise, and a careful diet! It also helps you change your mindset. I used to exercise to look hot, but now I’m gracefully focused on health and aging.
My gratitude is another important part of my daily self-care routine. By practicing gratitude, you can find more moments of joy in your daily life and be more attentive to your loved ones. Practicing mindfulness and meditation can reduce anxiety, stress, and negative thoughts.
Self-care allowed me to notice the constant neurotic thinking patterns I developed and to suppress me and make me feel inadequate or unmeasured. It becomes clearer that these patterns are inherently bad habits.
And like any other bad habit? They can break! It has boosted great confidence.
Mindfulness identifies and overcomes fear and self-doubt, tells oneself that he is not enough for years, then follows his passion for writing and inspires the courage to help others. Was useful.
And here we are today!
If you’re like me and take care of everyone except yourself, I encourage you to try some of the 30 self-care tips I shared above. It is really most important not only for your own health, but also for the health and well-being of everyone you care about.
I know it’s difficult to find time for self-care. So I recommend scheduling an hour every day just for you. Self-care may seem ridiculous or frivolous, but it literally saved my life.
And it may do the same for you!