“If you think something is missing in your life, it’s probably you.” ~ Robert Holden
Most people will agree that overthinking can sacrifice your peace, perhaps your happiness, but what about your life? Certainly it’s a bit exaggerated.
I will explain in the story.
One day, I remember taking my daughter to the park when she was about three years old. Like all children of that age, she was excited and fascinated by the surrounding environment. Insects crawl up the leaves, ducks crouch in the pond, and dogs chase nearby Frisbees.
She was fully engaged in the life around her — completely present at that moment.
Suddenly she pointed to the sky and shouted, “Airplane!”
Her high-pitched voice pulled me away from my fantasies and looked up at the plane above us, and for the first time I noticed my surroundings.
We noticed that we actually arrived at the park. My body was there for a few minutes, but I just arrived.
Before that, I was millions of miles away, pondering something, and knowing nothing about my surroundings.
Life is always happening now, but we are unaware that we are distracted by the mind of our thoughts.
Your body is here — where are you?
As soon as you wake up every morning, Mind TV will automatically turn on and start broadcasting familiar programs.
And through habits, we are committed to it. We feel that the content of our minds is far more compelling than the lives around us.
My days were like this. Maybe you can get involved?
I drank breakfast and was thinking about what to do for the day and traffic conditions on my way to work. The next thing I noticed was that I was staring at the empty cornflakes bowl in front of me without any memory of eating it.
I completely missed the wonderful taste and texture of the food in my mouth, not to mention the beautiful song of the warm sun shining through the window and the skylark outside.
At that time, I was busy replaying the conversation I had with my sister the night before, and my body was driving and working while I was missing the clouds, trees, and beautiful skies along the route.
The next thing I learned was to park in the parking lot at work without remembering that I drove a car.
At that time, my body was sitting at my desk, but I was somewhere else. I was counting the days until the weekend and planning my next vacation.
Robert Holden, director of The Happiness Project, beautifully summarizes it in the following words:
“If you think something is missing in your life, it’s probably you.”
There is no life in the past and the future
Losing in past and future mind movies keeps our attention away from the present moment, from life, from reality.
There is no reality in itself in the past and future. What happened yesterday, or what may happen tomorrow, exists only as an idea in your head.
The moment is always fresh and alive. The movies shown in our minds are old and old. They lack life.
Thinking too much will cost your life.
If you rush from one promise to the next and spend too much time lost in your thoughts, the life that is always happening will be overlooked and flash.
The dignity of each living moment is lost due to the lack of presence, so the days, weeks, months and years are all blurred into one.
We are always wondering where we went and why we are so frustrated, unsatisfied and disconnected.
No matter what is happening in life or what you believe it should look like, paying more attention to each new moment is more peaceful, connected, and lively. It is the key to the experience.
Satisfaction happens on its own when we are engrossed in this moment. No need to look. It is a by-product of being.
From your head and into your life
So how do you get out of your head and return to life?
Recognition of the current moment is the key. This is where life hangs out!
And the good news is that you don’t have to stop thinking aggressively because your mind can only be in one place at a time. If you pay attention to the current moment, your thoughts will stop automatically.
In my opinion, mindfulness practice is the easiest and most effective way to achieve this.
I’ve been practicing and teaching other forms of meditation for years, but I wanted to know more about the mindfulness approach and applied for an 8-week course.
During the course, there was a special exercise called “walking meditation” that impressed me.
As I walked slowly and quietly through the lush gardens of the Retreat Center, I was invited to feel the ground under my feet, pay close attention to every small movement and sensation of my body, and pay attention to the present moment. I put my feet one after another.
We were instructed to pay attention to each sensation one by one.
This is what I later wrote in my journal:
“Pay attention to the intricate patterns and colors of the leaves, busy with spider webs, feel the texture of the grass under the soles and the breeze of the skin, the gentle crackling of soil, herbs, twigs at the feet and the trees. The fragrant moss, which listens to the buzz of the wind, has transformed what looked like a lovely garden into the magical kingdom of Narnia! “
When you pay attention, it is amazing and humble to really notice the immenseness of what is happening around us and within us.
The mysterious change in the garden happened only with a shift of attention. Nothing new or different appeared on the outside. Everything was exactly the same as before.
And we can incorporate this quality into every aspect of our lives.
We are usually distracted by our thoughts and unaware of the immense abundance that surrounds us. Paying attention to the fulfillment of what is contained in each moment, as children do, naturally instills a sense of surprise and joy within.
Our real home is the present moment
Finally, we conclude with these beautiful words about walking meditation from the Buddhist mindfulness teacher Thich Nhat Hanh.
“Walking with all our hearts brings us peace and joy, makes our lives a reality, and enjoys peace at every moment at every step. No need to struggle. Each step Please enjoy.
When we practice walking meditation, we arrive from time to time.
Our real home is the moment. As we dive deeper into this moment, regret and sadness disappear and we discover a mysterious life.
Take a breath and say to ourselves, “I have arrived.” Exhale and say, “I’m at home.” When doing this, we overcome decentralization and live in peace at the present moment, the only moment we live. “
When the mind is calm, we can be directly involved in life, just like children. If you really pay attention to the richness of today, you will be absorbed in life like children.
Thinking too much will cost your life.