“It’s better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing perfectly.” ~Robert H. Schuller
The confession is as follows: I’ve wanted to be a writer since I was 13 when I first discovered the magic of words.
Second, I was 26 years old when I could honestly call myself a writer.
Why did it take so long?
I often think about it. Even today, when asked about my writing, I have a hard time saying that I am a writer. I have both pride and fear, and I’m always wondering, what do I tell these strangers if I fail?
Of course, it doesn’t start that way. When I was a teenager or a child, I was worried about my self-confidence. For example, I remember reading and thinking about Agatha Christie, I was able to do that. Talk about self-confidence!
Then, of course, it grows a little. Surrounded by comparisons by parents, teachers, or peers, you lack this faith in yourself. And with that implication, there are some disappointing comments …
“No one has ever done this” (So what do you do?)
“Most turn into failed writers” (You will do that too)
“What do you want to write? Is that? How do you make a living from it?” (You don’t)
With that in mind, I’ve been away from my dreams for a long time. I grew up in an environment where financial independence is highly valued, and I just didn’t know how writing would help me achieve the same.
Years later, I barely wrote. Occasionally there were poems and short fictional works, but never substantive, such as long posts or stories. Instead, focusing on a steady and wise career in engineering, I almost gave up.
Engineering was so far away from the page that I never thought of it again. I knew something was missing in my life, but I just didn’t know what!
And something wonderful happened.
Restless, I moved into a marketing career. Not only marketing, but digital marketing. My first job here was in the technology business, working on their blogs and writing every day.
Suddenly, I returned to my childhood dream. I was writing, editing and researching, but I still didn’t have an answer as to how I could maintain it and what was ahead, but I knew one thing. ..
Even if nothing happened, I enjoyed it.
That was more than five years ago, and since then I’ve been stepping in the direction of my dreams.
This is what I learned:
1. Don’t think too much.
If you’re someone like me, you’ll probably spend a lot of time researching before you actually start anything. It starts with good intentions (seeing before you leap), but before you know it, you’ve spent days studying without writing anything.
I looked it all up: how to become a blogger? What should writers pay attention to? Top 5 things new writers should know.
But in the end, the only way to get to write was to write. And there was no way around it. In fact, if I thought about it too much and went along the flow, it wouldn’t have turned out to be a huge waste of time and energy.
2. Detach your identity.
I didn’t pick up the pen for a long time because I was afraid to give it a try. do you understand. If you try it and it doesn’t work, That A failed writer.
Even if I didn’t write anything, I had at least the dream of becoming a talented and wonderful writer. It went on for years until I realized that time had passed without saying a word.
And every year it meant less time for me to do Any A kind of writer. And it scared me more than any of the reasons that prevented me!
I told myself, I write. Now it doesn’t make me a writer of any kind, it only makes me the writer. Who I am and what I have achieved is completely undefined in my writing.
In this statement, I separated my identity from the task, relieved the pressure, and simply wrote myself …
3. Allow to smoke.
The idea of what kind of writer I should be and how my style should evolve has kept me away from my desk for a while. All the articles I investigated felt wrong and when I wrote it seemed that I didn’t like the output.
problem? I wasn’t mediocre and okay, I was too absorbed in who I should be and what I should say.
After trying many times, I noticed that I sucked because I had little experience. But I was able to get better.
All I had to do was accept that I smoked and worked hard.
Only by authorizing myself to write poorly did I finally allow my work to progress.
4. Block the negatives.
Imagine finally getting off the couch when a negative friend arrives. Oh this? They say it never works. What if this friend comes in regularly?
This friend may be a real person, your own stress or fear, and may cast objections or fears on you.
In my case, it was my anxious brain and tortured me with the idea that “you are not good at this”. But like toxic friendship, you have to stop this story.
I did it easily — every time I started to have an idea like this, I would:
b) Say “NO!” Cut it off before it caught me.
Ultimately, these thoughts become less and less until I stop annoying me too often. Similarly, avoid negative friends who can make you feel sick about your dreams. It’s your dream — you have to keep it in your life!
5. Let go.
Here are some popular quotes from Arthur Ashe:
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
What is the most important hint of all? You don’t have to worry about things you can’t control. If you do basic research (not too much) and make a decision over time, take action.
There is always something out of your power — the future is not something you can foresee. The only thing you can control is your sincere effort, so dive in!