Is your relationship abusive? -GOQii

21-year-old Shweta Mishra met her ex-boyfriend at a friend’s party. They soon became intimate and began to meet each other. The man recently broke out of a relationship and sometimes became very abusive. He talked about his ex-girlfriend who had a negative impact on her self-esteem until she got drunk and began to think of herself as ugly. He would also call her name and say she was with him just because she wanted money. She slowly began to doubt her charm and self-esteem. That wasn’t the only act of abuse. When she talks to others, he is jealous and even forbids talking to attractive people.

When she was a disgusted drunk, he tried to touch her improperly. One day it was much worse than the other. He was so drunk that he began to touch her improperly. She hated the smell of alcohol and began to feel nauseous. She repeatedly said no, but he kept groping for her. That night she experienced the worst breakdown ever. The worst part was that he accused her of being ruthless and difficult the next day and now she told her she would make him a bad guy.

Shueta began to cause a series of breakdowns that hated herself. She felt “dirty” and “ugly” and began to scratch herself. She will feel his face on her body and want to cut herself. Finally, she decides to break out of the relationship to maintain herself. But even months later, she still has problems with trust in her relationships. She subsequently experienced several episodes of breakdown when she hurt herself to relieve pain.

Does the above scenario sound familiar? Have you ever mistaken an abusive relationship for “love”? If so, continue reading.

Love as a young man is full of hormones, turbulent changes, confusion, and confusion. Adolescents and young adults often get lost when it comes to finding information about safe sexual activity and healthy relationships. Popular media advertises eve, stalking, possessive, and ownership behavior as “love.” As the pressure from peers to want girlfriends and boyfriends increases, young minds already tackling the issue of self-esteem are tempted by the idea of ​​partnering with someone. Most victims choose to continue an abusive relationship solely to avoid the shame of “breaking up.” Communication gaps between growing parents and children make the situation even more difficult.

So how do you perceive these signs of abuse?

Emotional or psychological abuse is categorized by behavioral patterns in which others feel isolated, debilitated, or worthless. It is a way for abusers to maintain power and control in their relationships. Psychological pain can be as bruising as a slap or punch, even if it leaves no physical trace. Let’s talk more about these.

  • Intimidation: May be subtle and includes hidden and indirect threats. Your partner may monitor each movement, locate you, check your phone, or jump at you unexpectedly. This adversely affects a person’s overall sense of safety and can lead to anxiety.
  • Explicit threat: Sometimes the threat is less subtle. We all know the infamous acid attack on victims who had the courage to say no to their spurred lovers. There are too many cases where a partner threatens a girl with self-harm or suicide if she leaves him.
  • Slut-shaming: This is another form of abuse that can trap abused people and make them undesired and embarrassing. “If you don’t go out with me, I’ll tell everyone what we did in bed.” To make matters worse, the abuser gets explicit photos and videos of the abused person. , May threaten the partner that they may not be ready.
  • How to call the name: Abuses may call their partners ugly, fat, dark, stupid, or similar. It will eventually make them believe it is true. Teenage self-consciousness remains vulnerable, and such behavior can lead to withdrawal symptoms and depression.
  • Silent treatment: At times, abusers may use non-communication as a form of punishment for compelling other partners. They may completely ignore their partners until they succumb to their wishes. There are abusers who refuse to admit their partners in public and react when they are alone.
  • Constant criticism: “It can’t be worn!” Or “You can’t hang out with those friends” or “You can’t go there” is what abusers use to erode the self-esteem of others .. This can make people unacceptable and offensive about themselves.
  • Sexual abuse: Sexual contact or sexual activity with an intimate partner aimed at controlling through fear, intimidation, coercion, manipulation, or violence that causes discomfort to a person. This can be the presence or absence of physical violence at the time of the act or within the relationship. These occur primarily because the victim does not want to talk about it because of fear, guilt, or shame without parental consent. Victims can be both male and female, young adults of the same sex, and all ages (twine and above). Most such victims forced to have sex are unlikely to use condoms. Perpetrators are often intimate partners. Date rape, forced oral sex, unwanted contact – all form part of sexual abuse.

If you face any of the above, it may be time to get out of the relationship. This is not always easy, but talk to someone you trust: a friend, sibling, or an adult you can trust. And always remember – it’s not your fault.

I hope you found this article useful. Please leave your thoughts in the comments below. For more articles by sexual wellness expert Pallavi Barnwal, click here. Healthy reading Or join her live session GOQii Play.. You can also connect with her on Facebook.


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