Infertility treatments such as in vitro fertilization can have a significant impact on a woman’s body. Long treatments, costs and repeated cycles can shoot women’s anxiety and stress levels through the roof. Stress can often adversely affect a woman’s health and relationships, which can further reduce the likelihood of in vitro fertilization. The circle goes round and round.
The male partner must act as a female support system while the female is undergoing in vitro fertilization. There are many ways to support her throughout this journey. It is important for men to understand what their wives and partners are experiencing in the process. But even if you and your partner have been together for a long time, it is unfair to assume that if you do not contact him, he will understand everything you are experiencing. In most cases, the woman must remain silent and communicate with her partner rather than allowing the stressor to take over her peace.
IVF is a new situation for both partners and no one has ever participated in it. Here are some guide notes to help both partners get through this quickly.
What do you expect from your partner while she goes through IVF?
It is absolutely normal for a woman to experience a bout of depression during in vitro fertilization. She will suffer from loss of appetite, she will find it difficult to sleep or will sleep most of the time. She will want to eat a lot, and even a small incident that will happen between you will cause a big explosion. If you notice that any of these signs are at extreme levels, consult a fertility specialist without delay. Most fertility clinics have in-house counselors to help couples deal with this.
It is clear that all women feel anxious during in vitro fertilization. She is in vitro fertilized, but realizes she cannot get pregnant naturally and begins to judge her abilities. In vitro fertilized women often feel anxious about being around their baby or other pregnant women. If she feels depressed, she needs to understand that discussing another person’s pregnancy is not always the best topic, and that there are other positive things to discuss. Bringing in the topic of another person’s pregnancy can often make her feel uncomfortable, which is absolutely not a good thing while she is being treated. This phase is temporary and convinces her that they can go through together.
- Lots of stress
Not being able to conceive the baby itself can be very stressful for any woman. Treatment only amplifies and triggers the stress level. Things may have simply sounded when you first consulted a doctor. But don’t be surprised, the reality is so different. This is IVF. Stress hit all women. Stress is part of IVF.
What can you do to help your partner during her IVF treatment?
The first and most important thing you can do for her as a partner is to accept her feelings and not judge her. Leaving “is nots” and “what ifs” and accepting this is a decision you have made to each other. Thinking about how things were different for you does not serve any purpose. It can be difficult for both of you to accept that something is wrong with your reproductive system, and you also need to know that you are not the only couple dealing with this. One in six couples is facing infertility problems. If you choose a treatment, focus on what is impossible, rather than thinking too much about it. Don’t stick to things that can’t be changed.
- Find a way to relieve stress
Adopt activities that both of you can indulge in to soothe your body and mind. Practice yoga and tai chi, head massage, acupuncture and meditation. These are some of the best tips for emotional and physical healing. If you are too stressed to organize things yourself, consider consulting an occupational therapist.
- Please help her work
Share the burden of housework with her. Remember that her body is under the influence of heavy drugs and should not exercise herself for manual labor. Once IVF treatment has begun, the body should be well rested for injections and medications for best results. Share your kitchen work and help with the laundry. Do your bed. Clean the room.
- Pamper her
Many things happen to her body during in vitro fertilization. It’s clear that she feels physically exhausted. Do small things to pamper her. Take her to a spa or manicure. Let’s go for a romantic dinner. Resting her for a day, you prepare a meal and have it with her, letting her know that you love her. Your care can bring wonders to her mind and body.
- Share the burden
Keep in mind that this treatment is what you decide to do together, regardless of why you choose IVF or who has the problem of infertility in you. Stay there for each other, for better or for worse, in easy and tough, illness and health.
- Dedicate yourself to her and her journey.
It’s not enough to say that you can be good or bad with her-show it!
Accompany her to see and test all doctors. Stay there during her scan, during the egg collection process, and on the day of implantation. It’s your journey as much as she does. Witness the process of life that takes shape within her. While she is being treated, you can be the one who talks and discusses everything with a professional. Ask your fertility specialist for health tips and precautions. Show her that you are doing everything to make sure she is in top condition.
Every little thing you do to let her know that you are with her will help her heal. Let her feel your unwavering support. Let her know that she is loved and cared for. Respect what she is experiencing. What she does is for you and your family.