“Don’t be forced into the fear of your heart. Guide the dreams in your heart.” ~ Roy T. Bennett
When I was a senior at university, God, or the voice of God (also known as Morgan Freeman), came to my campus and talked to me. At the end of the story, I muttered into a microphone set up in the auditorium corridor, asked my question, and was excited that he would share his wisdom with me.
“Hello, as a senior university you are trying to think what to do Thank you! Then me to be with us today, doubt to me and other people or my there is a word of advice from the standpoint thought.”
“Follow your heart.”
I would lie if I said I wasn’t disappointed with his answer. “Follow your heart” sounded boring, and I felt like my neighbor could tell me that. There was certainly a feeling of “tell me what I don’t understand.” I was especially looking forward to the man who played God!
That was almost 10 years ago. Now, when you think about it later, you’ll find that these three words are complex and seemingly simple questions, but people have a hard time understanding them. why?
Based on my experience and witnessing others around me, the main reasons are:Despite knowing what we are Really Want, we disturb our fears.Whenever fear arises, our spirit is evolutionarily designed to protect us from all forms. Perception Danger kicks into high gear, drowns out the inner voice that arises from our hearts, and rationalizes going another way instead.
For most of us, we will abandon our dreams and follow the path of “certainty.” It usually involves some kind of financial stability.
A good example: When I was a senior at university, what I really wanted to do was apply for law school to become a public interest attorney.
I took some law classes (and enjoyed it) and was admitted to the Legal Assistance Association to help clients fight evictions against their landlords. I found the job incredibly meaningful and wanted to continue. But as a first-generation low-income college student, I didn’t know how to adjust the cost of law school and the salary of a public attorney. Also, I didn’t expect it to come out and be “good”. Money because I went to a “good” school.
This is when my brain starts to move and persuades me to go into consulting instead. I streamlined this decision by telling myself that consulting has given me access to and learning from different industries and that I can apply for law school as needed two years later. (You may be wondering, I hated consulting and didn’t apply for law school, but I wondered what life would have been like for a few years.)
After this experience, I would like to look back on Morgan Freeman’s answer to my question and share some steps you can take to make it easier for you to follow your heart.
1. Determine your values and live your life accordingly.
Whenever you know what your values are and when you make a decision, you know that it is correct if it matches your values. Consider the following question.
What are the three to five values that are important to you? A list of core values can be found here.
How can you incorporate your values into your daily life?
Example: One of my core values is personal growth. You may be afraid to take advantage of new opportunities (eg pursuing a consulting gig in Zimbabwe). In such a situation, my guiding question in deciding what to do was “Which decision will grow me?”
He answered “yes” to Zimbabwe, even though he was afraid to travel alone or stay in an unfamiliar developing country for a long time. But when I chose to take advantage of that opportunity, I discovered how I hyped my horror in my heart, and my experience in Zimbabwe gave me the courage to buy a one-way ticket to India a few years later. Was planted.
2. Do what makes you happy.
This seems easy. But in reality, it’s very easy to skip things that bring us joy (overwork, caring for others around, etc.) because other things in life get in the way.
When you actively open up time to make you happy, you are in your happy state, so you can access another state of mind where new ideas and ideas (real to you) appear. I can do it. You are not bothered by your daily anxieties and worries that arise from your heart.
Some of the things that make me happy include long walks, handwritten letters, and playing with dogs. Not only do I get happy when I do these things, but I also get a flash of inspiration for my work. If you let yourself do what you enjoy, new ideas will come up. This phenomenon is similar to taking a shower.
3. Pursue your interests and carry it out step by step.
Maybe you are thinking of taking that writing class? You’re probably not sure because you don’t think you’re a writer and you’re worried that everyone else in the class might be better than you. Ignore the voice of judgment, Follow your intuition— Sign up for that class!
It’s easy to be disappointed when you look at the people around you who are 50 steps ahead of what we want to pursue and think, “Why do you bother?” But in reality, everyone starts somewhere. If you don’t start today, time will pass, and a year later, if you don’t try it, you’ll be exactly what you are today.
The more steps you take towards talking to you, the more they are summed up and the more likely you are to pave the way for your calling.
As an example, I rediscovered the first yoga I tried a few years ago in 2017, but I didn’t enjoy it. Slowly, I piled up my yoga practice. I went to a yoga class and it turned into a yoga retreat and festival. Eventually, I was eager to go to India and complete Yoga Teacher Training (YTT).
I didn’t know what the YTT results would be. I didn’t even know if I wanted to be a yoga instructor. But at least I wanted to complete YTT myself because it was so important to yoga. During the YTT process, I realized that I really wanted to teach yoga to others.
“Follow your heart” is a short and simple phrase, but for many it may seem like a difficult order. May these three steps help guide you to pursue your dreams in your mind.