Joan Ketch, 54, from Houston celebrates 30 years of drunkenness in May. Her life is stable now, but she remembers how much she felt lost as a young woman still trying her way in the world. By the age of 25, she had become a highly functional alcoholic who preferred a series of restaurant management jobs and parties. She was then fired from her job due to chronic absenteeism.She also drunk driving
“I tried different ways to bring my life together,” says Ketch. “I didn’t want to see me need to be calm for that to happen.”
Ketch’s mom agreed to pay her representative lawyer in a drunk driving proceeding if her daughter agreed to attend anonymity for alcoholism every week for three months. Two weeks later, Ketch, a full-fledged member of AA, declared her drinking date May 15, 1991. This year will be her 30th “drink”.
She didn’t have to fight social media in the early 90’s, but Ketch could be related to how pressure from your social groups could hinder your path to drunkenness. there is.
“My fellow group was drinking as much or as I always had, and I wasn’t really friends with people who didn’t drink. I usually, to a minimum, Or I was unaware of the millions of people who didn’t drink at all, “she says.
Stay calm on social media
According to the United States, about 14 million people suffer from alcohol use disorders. 2019 National Survey on Substance Use and Health.. As in real life, if your friends have a party or post frequently about alcohol on social media, you need to be aware of what you’re seeing and what you associate with fun, Fort Lauderdale. Addiction specialist Jacqueline Dawson explains. , Fla.
“It may confuse you or put pressure on you to do what they are doing,” she says.
If you’re curious about the idea of seeing people on your feed socializing and celebrating with alcohol, you need to reduce or be careful with your social media consumption, especially if you’re vulnerable early in recovery. there is.
Fortunately, Ketch has made friendships with new and sober people at AA. “We went out to attend the meeting and eat together, and it became a group of alternative peers,” she says.
Professional Tips: If you are on social media and see something that triggers you, you should try to counter it with fun things that ruminate in a positive way. Some think about memory, some think about natural scenes, some religious people think about the Bible. Put you in the center and choose something that makes you feel joy and joy. Keep these two or three in mind in advance to replace social media triggers. Think of it as cleaning up files on social media and getting new ones.
It’s also helpful to remember that social media is the highlight reel of the best times. People gave their good news, vacation shots, and celebrations. Ultimately, if you see someone else drinking and you feel like you’re having more fun than you are, it’s time to check the reality, says therapist Sabrina Spotorno. MonumentAn online treatment platform for anyone who wants to change their relationship with alcohol. Spotorno promotes a virtual support group managed by the therapist called Quarantine DUI Management.
She suggests asking herself, “Is this fun for me?” You may find that you are actually experiencing the “joy of missing” (satisfied with where you are). It helps you understand that you don’t have to be in an environment with alcohol. In real life or online.
“We want real cultural change here by not thinking that alcohol needs to be the center of fun,” she adds.
Ketch says she began to enjoy being a sober woman who was the key to her lasting drunkenness. “I enjoyed how I felt about myself. I enjoyed my physical condition. I didn’t know how sick I was until I felt sick,” she says.
Professional Tips: Find alternative activities to scrolling social media to reduce personal comparisons and increase internal connections with others.
Take advantage of social media
Social media, on the other hand, is a powerful tool that you can use to reach your goals and feel positive about living an alcohol-free life. You can connect with like-minded people. You can join an online support group or share your values about alcohol and find people already in your feed that support you.
Social media is also a great place to celebrate sober people, find meetings, and find support groups and therapists. It’s worth staying on social media, even if someone checks in and asks how they’re doing it during a pandemic, how they’re holding up, or saying they love and care for you. Dawson says there is.
Professional Tips: If you have stable, positive, sober friends around you (directly and on social media) and you don’t have any of them, you should look for some.
Often, calm and positive things follow. You can get a better job and build a more fulfilling relationship — something you never want to lose. Over time, you may find yourself in places to watch liquor ads on Instagram and toast your friends on Facebook.
You think, “No, I don’t want to lose what I have.”
After a while, I see my friend’s wine tasting, and I realize that I spent too much time and effort trying to let go of everything.
Professional tips: Sensory activity moves the needles in your brain and confuses the upset messages you may see on social media. Wash your hands with scented soap, light a candle, smoke mint, go out, change your sensory input and prevent rumination on social media posts.
Ketch had to reestablish her career after the divorce. She returned to school to earn a master’s degree in counseling. She currently specializes in servicing clients with substance use disorders and is enrolled in a PhD.
“I have faced calm in every season of my life, including marriage, children, sick parents, deceased parents, bankruptcy, foreclosures, divorces. Many things people face with illness, I walk calmly. “She says.
What is her best advice? Curate your social media like your life and modify it to reflect the life you want to build.
Jennifer Nelson A Florida-based writer who has also contributed to MSNBC, FOXnews and AARP.
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